It is almost quarter to 2014. Many of us set goals at the beginning of the year, that remain unrealized.
One of the reasons we fail to achieve our goals is because of limiting beliefs.
You cannot, or you will struggle to, manifest something if you have beliefs that contradict what you want. We call these limiting beliefs. A belief is limiting if it opposes what you’d like to create.
Your world/life always reflects your beliefs. Whenever there is something you have wanted and you have always struggled to get or keep, you should know that you have limiting beliefs around that issue.
Our beliefs create our reality.
“Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you are right” – Henry Ford
People used to believe that it’s impossible to run a mile under four minutes. Then on May 6th 1954, Roger Bannister ran a mile in 3.59 minutes. Subsequently, a curious development took place. Within the following year many other runners ran the mile under four minutes. It was as if a spell had been broken.
Your beliefs are merely habitual thinking patterns that you learned (primarily as a child), so YOU CAN CHANGE THEM.
Here are 3 common limiting beliefs that hold many of us back.
MONEY – MONEY IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL
Most of us consider ourselves good people who hope to end up in heaven one day. If deep down you think Money is evil or the root of all evil, at most you will be ambivalent about being rich.
Do you think that cows are evil or maybe cowry shells? No.
Both have been used as money at some point in history. Money evolved to facilitate the exchange of value for goods and services. People started with a barter system. I will cut your hair if you paint my house. However this system has its limitations. Perhaps the painter feels that painting your house is far more valuable than a haircut or he does not need or want a haircut. People then moved to a neutral currencies such as cows, they would agree that a product or service was worth x number of cows. But livestock can get unwieldy. It’s not hard to see how something like cowry shells would have advantages over cows, as long as we are in agreement about the worth of the shells. Money continues to evolve but it’s reason for being has remains the same. Money is merely a medium of exchange for trading goods and services. All it does is express value. So having a lot of money simply means that you have created a lot of value. Evil has nothing to do with it.
WEIGHTLOSS – I HAVE TO DEPRIVE MYSELF TO LOSE WEIGHT
Nobody likes the idea of deprivation. In fact often it makes you freak out and over-indulge in whatever you think you are going to have less or none of. The people who are most successful at losing weight tend to be the ones who focus on what they will get more of, not less of.
If you say I choose to get healthier, live longer, have more energy, wake up earlier so I can have more time in my day, etc, it does not send you into a panic and eventually rebellion. The same applies to what you are eating. If you focus on what you are having more of, and forget about the less part, it is easier to handle. I’ve decided to increase my water intake feels a lot better than I have decided to cut down on my Coke consumption.
You will have more success in losing weight if you focus on what you will be gaining.
RELATIONSHIPS – MY IDEAL PARTNER DOES NOT EXIST OR IS ALREADY TAKEN
Now this is quiet a way to start the quest for a mate! You are going to prove yourself right by (1) not attracting anyone, or (2) looking at how people do NOT fit your list and so reject them or feel like you’ve settled!
Life would be much easier if you let go of your belief in “The One”, but this is a hard one to shake as it is reinforced by movies, songs, fairytales…
“The One” is essentially the person who fits our list. You know the list. Ideally I’d say throw away the list, however that is easier said than done. Besides it’s probably etched in your brain, anyway.
So the next best thing is to use it to activate the universal law of attraction – which says you cannot have what you WANT, you can only have what you ARE.
So take your list, e.g.
- He must be tall
- He must be romantic
- He must me rich, etc
Then ask yourself – how will this make me feel? (People never want a thing, what we crave is an emotional state and we tend to pursue the things that we think will evoke that state)
- If he is tall it will make me feel feminine.
- If he is romantic it will make me feel special
- If he is rich it will make me feel secure.
Then think about other things you can do right now to feel feminine, special and secure. There is ALWAYS more than one way to skin a cat.
Once you are all those things you will be able to attract them in others.
Life coach Anthony Robbins says that all personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. Be willing to let go of beliefs that do not serve you. DECIDE THAT YOU’D RATHER BE HAPPY THAN BE RIGHT, because your beliefs will always prove you right.