Everything in your life – people, things and activities – either builds you up or breaks you down.


It is usually different things for different people. For example, introverts lose energy from interacting with people, and feel energised when they are isolated. Whereas extroverts are the opposite, energised by social interaction. Similarly, there is no one size fits all diet. Your friend can thrive on a vegan diet, while it leaves you lethargic and cranky.

Luckily your body always knows what works for you. You can tell what builds you up or breaks you down by paying attention to what energises you and what depletes your energy. Then work on eliminate as much of the latter as possible from your life.

Start with toxic people. Evaluate how people in your life make you feel. Where possible, rid yourself of people who bring you down. Also get rid of friends who are most attentive when you are going through drama.  You don’t need those kinds of people in your life. Friends who like to rescue you, who enjoy seeing you as a victim or wounded are not to be confused with supportive friends. Supportive friends also love you when you shine, not only when they can swoop in and dust you off.

Then go through your stuff. One of the rules around clutter is that if you don’t need it, you don’t love it, or you haven’t used it in over a year, get rid of it. There are things we hang on to that send the wrong message to ourselves about ourselves. For example, for years I kept an engagement ring from a previous relationship. I told myself that I kept it because it was a beautiful ring, which it was, but that wasn’t true. I hung on to it because I didn’t believe that anyone would spend that much money on a ring for me again. When I held that ring while tuning into how I felt, it didn’t uplift me, it brought me down. It symbolised a lack of belief in my own worth.

Everyday for the rest of the month, set aside 20 minutes, pick a section of your home, tune into your things, and lovingly release the ones that deplete your energy.

Finally evaluate your activities. What activities do you engage in that deplete you?Some things can’t be avoided, for example if you have a job that depletes you but you can’t quit it. However, there are activities we partake in out of habit or a misguided sense of obligation that we really can just stop.

Detox time!

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